Perhaps it is just a matter of age. Young progressives see the decriminalisation of homosexuality as an entitlement. I see it, as I do all personal law, as a matter that needs to be negotiated with society. Social norms—birth, marriage, death, inheritance—from which personal law flows are not immutable truths. They evolve, as society does, with technology, trade and travel. Each age has its definitions of normal and deviant. I do not suggest that these definitions are necessarily fair or equitable. Only that arriving at these are legitimate matters of public debate and contest. A century back, child marriage was the norm, gay marriage unthinkable. Perhaps inconceivably to someone in the 1920s, our norms today have flipped. Similarly we can only imagine the customs of the future. But just as we don’t want to be shackled by laws that reflect that mores of an age past, nor would the generations who succeed us.