Pros and cons of venting steam at your ex

In every divorce, there remains bitterness, anger and sadness between both parties.

Divorce coach Cindy Holbrook has given 4 ways to benefit by remaining angry at your former spouse.

She said that firstly, if a person tells their story to everyone who will listen, they will receive attention and will make them feel like a good person - or at least a better person than their former spouse, the Huffington Post reported.

Secondly, she said that anger punishes their ex. The third positive effect that happens by remaining angry at former spouse is it motivates them and will give them the fuel they need to fight back.

The last positive effect is that the anger avoids people to avoid pain, as by staying angry they become numb to pain, hurt or the rejection the death of their marriage has brought up.

Holbrook also gave four detriments of remaining angry at your former spouse.

Firstly, she said that though occasional anger causes little or no harm frequent, uncontrollable anger or suppressed rage, hurting people both physically and mentally.

Secondly, remaining angry can make them a negative and irritable person that could interfere with their current relationships with kids, parents and siblings.

Thirdly, anger and hostility cause stress in their mind and body and throws their body off balance and begins to constrict parts of their body which, in turn, creates disease.

Lastly, a lot of physical conditions like coronary heart disease, heart attacks, high blood pressure, depression, headaches, eating disorders, digestion problems, diabetes, insomnia, skin problems and depression arise out of prolonged anger. Empower yourself by letting go.