Words that can kill marriages revealed

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Last Updated : May 21 2013 | 12:30 PM IST

Words can play a powerful role in marriages. They can cut you, heal you, inspire you, and stop you from certain actions.

Learning the language of marriage takes time and diligence, but saying some words regularly may cause irreparable damage.

Huffington Post came up with five words that are destined to cause damage to your marriage.

The first word is "never," which implies a sense of hopelessness and finality.

When you use "never," you're telling your spouse that they are no good, will never be any good and that there's no hope for change.

Second is "always," which implies a sense of rigidity and righteousness.

When you use "always," you're telling your spouse that they are wrong, you are right, and that there's nothing that can be done about it.

It's also an all-or-nothing phrase, and it does not lend itself to understanding, learning, or healing.

Thirdly "but." It implies a sense of manipulation and a lack of integrity.

When you use "but," you negate whatever was said before. It invalidates your message and turns a positive statement into a negative one.

It's a conjunction that does not lend itself to building trust, credibility and intimacy. Similar words to avoid include "however" and "although."

Fourth "*#% and ." Use your imagination and fill in the blank and what you're left with is a vulgar, obscenity-laced attack.

Any way you look at it, attacking your spouse by name-calling will cause irreparable damage.

Doing this regularly will surely destroy your spouse's soul and kill the marriage. Outright contempt has no place in a marriage.

And lastly "divorce." Threatening to divorce, suggesting divorce as an option, or accusing your spouse of destroying the marriage will lead to just that.

A divorce is a very serious decision, and using it as a weapon or method of control creates anxiety and despair. It's not conducive for effective communication, conflict resolution, problem solving, or intimacy.

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First Published: May 21 2013 | 12:18 PM IST

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